stuck in the passing lane
The true story of a man using all the dating tools developed during his 23-year marriage to conduct live experiments on his newly-divorced, Baby Boomer heart.
From Russia to Spanish Harlem to New York’s Chinese immigrant community to Singapore, from a relationship with a member of Moscow’s “think tank” elite to a barely literate but vastly streetwise Chinatown massage parlor queen, this is the story of one man’s quest for a new “chemistry,” one that doesn’t, in just a matter of time, become relationship déjà vu.
Excerpts from the book:
Sugarfilly
I’m in the last throes of carefully reviewing my Match profile, like you’re supposed to do with your SAT answers when you finish early. Read more
Cultural Evolution
I don’t know much about the person I’m meeting today, and what little I’ve learned places her so far from my experience that I don’t know what to expect. Read more
The Perfect Search
I’m boiling in my own oils in the hot tub behind the tract house I just hastily purchased. Read more
Growing Together, Me Old, Her Up
I’m entering Starbucks in SoHo, looking through a long line for a Chinese woman with whom I’ve had three short phone conversations that I’ve punctuated with lots of “uh-huhs,” the safest thing to say to someone whose English I mostly don’t get. Read more
White-Chinese Thanksgiving in Harlem
It’s Thanksgiving, and I’m standing on Lenox Avenue and 127th Street in Harlem with my twin daughters, Nori and Helena, waiting for Melanie and her two kids. Read more
Trying What the Experts Say
A New York Times article by someone called a research anthropologist makes me think that maybe I have to make adjustments in how I select women to date. Read more